Today I had fell sick after about a month working in my new office... got mc for halfday... returned home half dead. Slept till 8 pm and my gf called to open the door.
I found out that it was raining outside and I was thankful that she reach my place safely.
It was very nice and thoughtful of her to buy dinner and come to visit me... I was definitely very happy...
Had dinner together and chat a little... then she had to leave at 10 pm because she needed to rest early... and also to see her dad at home...
Of course felt sad that she had to leave but she had to rest more for a better tomorrow... hehehe.
Then I called up a fren to talk to her the progress of me and my new gf... of course also to catch up on what we had missed.
Then she asked me a question... 'How do you know that this gf of yours is THE ONE'?
I answered her... THE ONE depends on what you want and also what you have experienced.
At many times... we judge what we want thru looking at other ppl and also what ppl experience from what they have. Sometimes things that ppl experience is different from each other. But we will take the highest point as our benchmark of what we want because its the best that you can get. I use to be like that...
Sometimes the thing that you want in life may not be the thing that is best for you in life...
And sometimes after knowing the thing, it may not be the thing that you want anymore...
So, it also depends on timing of when and what you want... of course the experience as well.
The example that I gave to my fren was my car... A KENARI.
When I first look at the Kenari... I felt that I did not like it due to its design... that was at first glance... but after that things changed.
Now I am driving a Kenari myself and I find all the good things in it.
From the space to comfort and fuel saving...
What I am trying to say here is not trying to sell the car... but sometimes things do not seem to look like what it is like... you have to experience something and gone thru something with it... then you will find the goodness and also the understanding that certain things are not there for a reason.
Its not that I did not like my gf at the first glance... but we started as frens... then we became good frens. I started to find that I start to understand her more and wanted to know more...
Of course there are certain things that I expected but it was not there... but like I said... things were not there for a reason.
Sometimes things that we hope to want and what we really want can be different...
At this point of time... she is what I really want and I hope that she is my last gf so that we can grow together to be something that we both want... thats the only true thing that I wanna do now.
I hope that Fei, Gu and CK can support me as I know one day that you will view this blog... thanks for being my fren.
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i think i am the first one who viewed it, or maybe the first one who left a comment....
basically, u have the full support from us...as we have went thru together with u almost all of the ex-gfs (except one....) that u used to have those high (very high) and low (very low) moments...
it's really good(and idealistics) to have the thinking that you are not looking for the ONE...as you can ask around among ur frens, there are very few examples that really portrait "I and my ONE" senario..
Like you said, everything is and is not there for a reason...wish that u and ur gf will treasure each other very much...Love her as much as u can, as whenever there is anything that happen between u and her, there is at least one reason for u to get back both of u together again... The life of getting to know a new gf...get together...then breakup...is nothing really different from one gal to another gal....U still get happy the same way, u still get sad the same way too.....
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